Hello again friends! I hope that you are well and peaceful. I was journaling this morning and realized the peaceful feeling that I had was due to how I am feeling about myself these days. That's when I knew this was just the right topic for the next blog.
When did it become ok to spend so much time talking about ourselves in a way we would never talk about someone we loved?
I read the other day, we cannot give what we do not already possess, makes sense...What immediately came to mind was ~ how can I expect to give love to someone else if I am not first filled with love...how can I expect someone to love me if I do not first have love for myself?
It is extraordinarily easy to point out our faults, the bad stuff is easier to believe. I understand why it happens ~ when we point these things out then others won't have to ~ or if they do, we've already heard it.
However, did it ever occur to you that other people may not be thinking that at all? When we spend so much time and energy looking at our faults, it can become a way of being. Some of the most critical people I know would tell me that they are all about giving love...then they'll say they don't understand why they have such a hard time getting it in return. The majority of the people I encounter desire love. However, if we spend all of our energy looking outward for that love we fail to nurture ourselves and we have less love to offer others.
~ Before you read the next sentence, spend 30 seconds thinking of 2 things that you love about yourself~
~ Go ahead, I'll wait~
What did you come up with? Some of you may have said somethig that someone has admired about you. Or, maybe it is something that you've never admitted to anyone...it doesn't matter this is about YOU.
My challenge to you is to make a promise to yourself. Everyday think of 2 things that you love about yourself. They can be the same 2 things or change daily. And when you hear yourself pointing out your faults, or notice you're feeling down on yourself...SMILE and remember what you love about you.
Because no matter your choices, the point is YOU ARE LOVED!
Until next time my friends, Robyn
Ms Robyn,
ReplyDeleteYou are so right!!! I have always had "self-esteem" issues, since I was very young. Slowly, I emerge, (the Phoenix in me), and occasionally I retreat back to that person I don't like. But you have given me the memories of loving myself, and how good I feel, and how deserving I am. Thank you!!!